Show me your friends…

Orlando, Florida (2010)

I can’t believe this photo was taken 8 years ago. Looking back, I am grateful for the friends that I have because whether they realize it or not, they contribute in some way to the person that I am today.

The people whom I hang out with, travel with, eat with, live with, and share my joys and sorrows with, are people whom I chose. I picked them out of so many other people, because I believe they can help me become better. I also believe that I can help them.

Sometimes we don’t realize that we are constantly creating the social environment we are living in, and that environment will shape who we are and who we will be.

Although I believe people have a constant potential to change, I also believe that you form much of who you are and who you will be during your youth years.

That’s why those moments are called “formative” years. They form who you are. You solidify your sense of self, your identity, your view of the world, and your view of relationships. Your personality becomes stable during that time.

Although I am not 100% the same guy as I was 8 years ago, there are so many parts of myself that are still the same. If I reunite with my friends again, we can immediately sense that the people we hung out with during university years are still the same people in some way.

So we need to look at our youth years seriously and start thinking about the person we want to be. That will lead to some important decisions in our lives which will shape us closer to who we want to be.

But first, you have to decide who you want to be. You need to have an idea of who that person is. You don’t have to be super specific because there are so many unknown variables (that’s normal).

At the very least, you need to have a sense of who you want to be and where you’re going. When you have that, you know who to choose as your friends.

“Show me your friends and I’ll tell you who you are.”
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Come join me in my next and last class of 2018!

Be Unshakeable: How to Be Confident When You’re Nervous
Date: December 29th, 2018 (Saturday)
Time: 10am – 2pm (4 hours)
Venue: WORQ TTDI

Nervousness is a sign that we value the thing we are nervous about. But, just like any other human feeling, nervousness can go haywire. It can hold us back from moving forward.

This class is not about removing nervousness. It is about controlling nervousness, before it controls you.

It all starts with our mind.

What will you learn?

We will dissect my latest bestselling book “Unshakeable: How to Be Confident When You’re Nervous“.

Below are the main points of the book:

1. The Power of Your Mind
2. Be Mindful of Your Mind
3. How You Think Is How You Feel
4. Choose to Be Positive
5. Confidence is a Process
6. Your Ego Has to Go
7. What People Think of You
8. Make More Mistakes
9. Not Getting What You Want
10. Grow a Thicker Skin
11. Change is the Only Constant