Any advice on getting out of comfort zone? It’s always interesting to hear other people’s perspective, ideas on this topic.Stephanie
It’s always interesting to listen to people’s perspective, but I just want to add a cautionary note. Don’t make it a hobby to just listen to perspectives but do nothing about it. Because I don’t want it to be you. Maybe you are in your comfort zone and you want to get out of it. But you make it an excuse to just listen to people’s opinions first before you get out of your comfort zone.
Maybe you listen to my opinion today and then you think to yourself, “Huh, he has a point. Now, I want to listen to someone else.” But you haven’t take any action to get out of your comfort zone. Don’t be that person, okay? Sure, you can listen to as many opinions as you want but at the end of the day, it all boils down to this: “What’s your action?”
Nonetheless, I still want to answer your question.
With regards to how to get out of your comfort zone, the thing that you have to do is just take the first step. Because the first step is probably the hardest one ever because there you have to deal with the fear of uncertainty, fear of rejection, fear of failure. All the horrible fears that you have, you have to deal with them because this thing that you’re trying to do is totally new. You have no idea what to expect. Maybe it’ll go right, maybe it’ll go wrong. You’ve no idea.
So, you just have to take the first step. Take the leap of faith, and try it out. Because it’s better to know that you have failed than to assume that you will fail. If you try whatever you want to try, and you ended up failing in that trial, then you’ll have concrete evidence that maybe this is not for you. As opposed to not trying anything, not doing anything, just assuming that I’m gonna fail at this. You can’t learn from imaginary failure. You can only learn from real actual failure.
Plus, just because you failed once, it doesn’t necessarily mean that whatever you were trying to do is not for you. Maybe you have to try again. Try again, try again, try again. It takes practice sometimes to do certain things. Let’s say, you want to get out of your comfort zone to do public speaking for example. You can’t expect to just be great at it the first time you do public speaking.
Somebody just messaged me today, saying that he wants to be like me, speaking very candidly to the camera, very candidly in front of people. Yeah, you can be like me. It’s fine but you have to understand I’ve been doing this for eight years. I’ve been doing this for a long period of time. I’ve been doing this a lot. I’ve had a lot of practice under my belt. So, you can’t really compare what I have now to what you have now.
But you can actually go back to my first video and look at how I started. That’s me getting out of my comfort zone when I first started making that first Youtube video ever that I uploaded 2011, eight years ago. I was really really nervous. I was really really afraid. It took me two days to make that four-minute video.
Today, I can make the same four-minute video in an hour. But it took me two days the first time around. It’s not because the video was difficult but because having to face all the fears. That’s difficult. But you have to push yourself.
Push yourself. Just do it. Take the first step.